Miso here. And right now I get a chance to share something special with you...

If you remember, last summer we put together a very unique seminar with David Deida, a first of its kind (it has caused so much commotion and positive change among a lot of people since).

I mean, so many lives have been changed that weekend, and almost everyone who attended gave up the quest of "Pick-Up Artistry", all the shallowness that comes with that, and most have moved on to grow as MEN with purpose in life, attractive character and unshakable confidence around women - the stories we receive from attendees to this day (and their girlfriends) are still mind blowing!

And we have been promising you some sort of recording of that monumental weekend here in Toronto for quite some time now.

Well, guess what - the time has finally come...

David Deida has influenced me (along with thousands others) and shaped our philosophy here perhaps more than anyone else!

His work isn't light stuff or a quick fix of some sort (what most self-proclaimed "pickup gurus" would sell you on in a weekend).

It's incredibly powerful and potent, and has helped me personally create some of the most rewarding experiences with women I have only dreamed of having in the past...

And even though we have attended his week-long intensive retreats, read every single one of his books, often several times, and listened to everything he's ever released, we still get to learn something mind blowing from him every time we cross paths.

His work is a perfect complement to our teachings, and now, for the first time EVER, he has decided to share his ideas and advice in a very personal, comprehensive, year long program called "The Deida Experience", allowing you to really immerse yourself in his work and experience David's extraordinary teachings by phone, by home delivery of his entire classic CD Collection, exclusive live seminar recordings, as well as
new monthly teachings, tele-seminars, access to members-only social network, and VIP access to his sold out Workshop Intensives.

If you have been looking for a way to create ravishment and rapture in your intimate life rather than the mediocrity of most relationships, if you have been looking for a gentle but unrelenting guide to helping you express your deepest offering of love in this world to your family, your friends, your lovers and the world, then The Deida Experience may be exactly what you have been hoping to discover:

http://TheDeidaExperience.com

To get you started in this immersion experience for FREE, the team at The Deida Experience has arranged to give you an hour of David Deida Live, recorded at a recent Intensive, as a thank you for simply considering joining.

To get your FREE hour of David Live please go to

http://TheDeidaExperience.com

and you will be directed to the download page from there.

Over the next few days, if you choose to do so, you will receive detailed information on this extraordinary opportunity to help turn your most dearly held principles into step-by-step practice, and your practice into effortless depth and shared heart-bliss.

As you might know already, David's work is not for the mere c1ub-haunting pick up artist.

It is for men who have either grown tired of that level of communication with women (and that kind of woman!) - or the kind of man who was never attracted to surface living in the first place!

And this program is no different - it is definitely not for the shallow minded, pussy-chasing assholes who have very low respect for women (if you are one of those guys, please don't bother reading further).

It is for men and women who do not want to settle for mediocrity in sex or in intimacy.

It is for those who want to escape from surface contact with women and who are ready to break into new areas of personal mastery, sexual communion and living the kind of unrestrained, unconstricted life such that when you die, you won't regret a moment.

The intention is set high.

How high?

Listen to the preview of what's to come at:

http://TheDeidaExperience.com

I will be a member of this program myself, and look forward to going deeper with it with you as we journey forward toward genuine masculine mastery and deep fulfillment with women...

Meet me over there at:

http://TheDeidaExperience.com

p.s. Registration for The Deida Experience Program will open for 9 Days only, beginning October 10th, after which the doors will close and the program will commence with David's live Tele-Event.

Both me and Tung have been told about the unfortunate circumstances that our close friend has been placed in, and along with a dozen other friends - local & international experts in the fields of dating, sex and relationships we have decided to throw the most ridiculous bootcamp ever!

It will feature a dozen socia1 and dating coaches, makeover experts, female "sexperts" and a whole lot more over the course of 3 days, and will transform each one of the participants into a much better,
healthier man equipped with unstoppable confidence...

And all that is being offered to you by every single instructor as part of the fundraiser for the greater good - there is a need to make a positive difference in one person's life, and all of the instructors involved will be dedicating their time to you in return for a small donation... forget about all the overpriced workshops, gurus profiting on their fame and whatnot - we're gonna try and make a difference in everyone's life in a noble way instead!

So check out the details about this insane weekend here:

http://sargeathon.com

Line up so far includes Adrian Biccum (from Dr. Paul's camp), Yohan (from Dave M's Internet Dating camp), Tung (our very own), Sean Messenger (from LVO3.com and ex-Pickup101 head coach), and many more are coming up as surprise guest speakers... in total, about 12 different speakers and coaches will storm the city for this event, at the same time - this is a workshop not to be missed!

Here's what our friend Sean Messenger had to say about it on his blog (right after he volunteered whole-heartedly to fly up to Toronto at his own cost and provide his time and help in any way possible to this cause):

1. If you are sick, cancel and set up a new day and time. What is up with people who show up with the flu or a bad cold on a date.
2. Make sure that there is no food in your teeth when you show up on the date. Do you remember the scene from Jaws when the shark jumped out of the water when Chief Brody was chumming. Enough said about that.
3. If you are in great shape don’t hide your body. It is an asset and you need to show it off. No matter what you do in online dating you will need to weed through a ton of bad applicants. So show off what you got. I am not talking skimpy shots showing skin, but you can put up some great pictures showing people how great of shape you are in.
4. If you think someone online is married ask them. Listen to what they have to say and if they get all defensive the answer will be very obvious to you.
5. Always be prepared that someone will not be as advertised. That way you will be pleasantly surprised when they are better in person.
6. Stop putting pictures of yourself up with an ex.
7. Only one picture of you with a drink is ok. If you have more than one it makes you look like a lush.
8. Do not put a picture of your friend up instead of you.
9. Do not put up your medical history this is not a chart in the hospital. This is stuff you talk about in person.
10. Don’t ask for the phone number unless you are going to call.
11. Stop asking your married friends for advice especially if they got married when they were very young. They have no idea what it is like to date online.
12. Stop only online dating and start meeting people out and about. Life is all about balance.
13. Stop jumping from site to site. Stay on one and be patient and email people on a regular basis.
14. E-Harmoney is a waste of time. How can a computer match 2 people who are not telling the truth when they write their profiles. You need to rely on your own intuition and not a computer.
15. If your not a good writer your profile will not read very well. It is all about creating an emotion in the person who reads your profile. Spend time on your profile it is your introduction to the world of online dating.
16. Get on the phone as quickly as possible. Chemistry is all about the voice and having a real conversation. A week of emails is a waste of time.
17. Why waste time emailing people who live 2000 miles away and if they do not write you back get angry at them.
18. If someone does not show interest control your anger and just move on.
19. Post a picture it will help you get more responses.
20. Stop posting pictures of you in sunglasses. Let people see your eyes.
21. Do not write in all caps. It makes you sound angry.

p.s. - eHarmony really is a joke (having been through the trial of it already). Who pays someone $60/month, spends a whole day filling out a bunch of questionnaires and surveys hoping to increase their chances of meeting their match... only to get up to 6 new random matches in their inbox every day, out of which you'd barely initiate a conversation with one or two of them (if you're really desperate or lonely on a Friday night and had nothing better to do, really). Sure, great concept in theory, but in reality? Don't think so... seriously, it's like guys paying someone to limit the number of women they can talk to each day to random 6 people, and the worse of it all - probably not even women they'd pick out themselves, but someone else's choice instead. Point of the story - stay away from that website unless you've got enough money and time to throw away, and go out, meet some real women outside!

1. Stop posting four different pictures from four different stages in your life. Women will put up pictures from ten years ago along with pictures that are current. This leaves a man wonder “Who is this person?” I’ve personally looked through thousands of online profiles, and the majority of women will put up pictures from different stages of their life but not put up current pictures. All pictures that you put on an online dating profile MUST BE CURRENT!!! He’s going to find out what you look like when you meet, and there is no reason to lie about your looks. If you’re heavier than you were ten years ago, there’s nothing you can do to change that but diet. So don’t put on your profile a picture of you from ten years ago so that he will think that is what you look like. Be okay with where you are in your life.

2. Put a picture of you standing up, so he can see what you look like from head to toe. Men are visual. If you put a picture up just of your face and you’re heavier down below, then you probably won’t get a second date after you meet if you’ve not stated that in your profile and/or you’ve described yourself as “fit and trim.” Men are attracted to all different body types. Some men like ‘em skinny, some like ‘em curvy, some like ‘em chunky, some like ‘em voluptuous. You are not every man’s type and you never will be . . . so just be okay with it.

3. Don’t list your dislikes about Internet dating in bold, capital letters at the beginning of your profile. We’ve all had negative experiences online. You don’t need to list them right away, which will make you come off sounding like a nasty bitter woman. It’s better in your profile to emphasize your positive points, not your negative ones.

4. List your exact body type. It seems like on the Internet EVERYBODY is “athletic and toned, “petite,” or “fit and trim.” He will find out what you look like!! You might as well tell the truth in your profile, so you’ll have a qualified lead and not waste somebody’s time. Once again, men are very visual. We would rather know what you look like so there’s no surprises. That’s part of understanding that men are attracted to all different body types.

5. List your real age. In the world of Internet dating, it seems like there’s an abundance of 29 and 39 year-old women. “29” usually means somewhere in your 30’s. And a woman who is “39” is usually somewhere in her 40’s. I’ve seen many women list their age as 39, and then see their picture and realize they’re closer to 49. Why start a potential relationship on a lie. Men are guilty of the same thing, and I advise them the same way. So, I’m not taking the side of a man. I’m just saying it’s best to list your own age.

6. Stop putting up pictures of yourself that have ex-boyfriends in them. Also, don’t put up pictures of yourself that are cut in half because you’ve cut out the head of a guy. Get a friend to take new pictures of you and those up . . . don’t put up the ones with you and ex-boyfriends in them.

7. I’m really glad you had a great time on your vacation, but you don’t need to post ten pictures of your trip to Italy WITHOUT you in them. This is a dating site . . . not a trip advisor. Also, stop posting pictures of you skydiving, winter skiing, water skiing, or doing anything else where we can’t see what you look like in the picture. Most men are looking at the pictures to decide whether or not we want to contact you. You have to learn how to market yourself to a man. Start with the pictures, body type and the age being correct . . . then we’ll get on to reading your profile.

8. Keep your profile short and to the point. Make your paragraphs very short. I’ve seen too many women’s profiles that look like romance novels. Take a look at ESPN.com, and read an article in the sports section. All paragraphs are short so men can digest that information in short bursts. If you want him to read your profile, you need to write it so a man will read it.

9. Don’t be so self-absorbed. I’ve seen so many women’s profiles that talk about “I want a man to be this,” “I want a man to do that,” “I want a man to cherish me” “I want a man to adore me,” and whatever other “I want . . . “ applies to you. You list all your “I wants” without listing what YOU will bring to the relationship. So you end up looking like you’re a taker and not a giver. No man wants to be with a taker . . . he wants to be with someone who’s equally willing to give and to receive.

10. Don’t list your financial desires like you’re posting a want ad. I’ve seen too many women write In their profile “I’m looking for a man who will spoil me, buy me great things, and take me on great trips . . .” You come across as a gold digger. Now, maybe you are a gold digger . . . and maybe this is what you want and desire. But even a man who’s wealthy is not going to get turned on by this. So tone it down a little bit. Maybe say “I like the finer things in life to share with somebody” so you don’t come across so harsh.

11. Baby Talk! Even if the number one priority in your life is to be a mother, nothing scares a man off more than if you write in your profile about how badly you want kids and how badly you want to have a family. He may feel the same way, but by writing this all he is going to think about is “This woman will marry anybody to have kids.” So once again write something a little more toned down like “Families are important to me, and I can’t wait to meet my special man so I can start a family.” This shows you’re selective, and not just looking for someone with whom to make a kid.

12. Stop listing all your rules. Don’t write things like “A perfect first date MUST be dinner” or “The man I date HAS to wear suits.” Women tend to list rules in their profiles. Be open to a different kind of first date. Also, what about the kind of guy who wears jeans to work? I’m not making this stuff up. This is what I’ve seen Online.

13. Stop sending winks. When is the last time you went to the supermarket, saw a cute guy and winked at him? Winks went out of style when “Happy Days” went off the air. You don’t like when men send you a wink. You think it makes him seem lazy and like he didn’t read your profile. We think the same thing!! So stop winking and start typing.

14. If you write to a man and he doesn’t write you back, don’t write a nasty follow-up email and ask him why he didn’t write you back or say anything else that is not that nice. If a man doesn’t write you back, it’s the same thing as when you don’t write a man back. It means that he is not interested. Don’t get angry . . . just find another person.

15. We know you’re looking at us, because we see that you’ve viewed our profile every day. Say “hello!” We’re not going to bite. Lob that email in. Take a chance and send an email to the girl to whom you’re most attracted. You never know what might happen!

16. If a guy that you’re interested in writes to you, stop playing games and write him back right away. Don’t make him wait four days. He may find someone else in the time you wait to write him back. Don’t play games and keep the momentum going!

I have found when online dating that if you’re honest about who you are, and you get back to people immediately, you’ll get the date faster and avoid all the back and forth games that go on. Now go change that profile!!

You guys got any others you'd like to share?

Dating tips, games and tricks boil down to these things: being aloof, playing hard to get, acting like you have a life, not acting needy, demonstrating value.

Fact is this: these things work. They definitely work with many, many people. The second you throw out a lure of aloofness, most people will jump to bite it.

The deeper you go into these tips and tactics, the more you find they are filled to the brim with fear, weakness and manipulation. Tricks and games are for the weak and manipulative. This is essential to understand. Only out of weakness, fear and neediness can these tricks arise, and everyone is interested in teaching you the tricks! If you take a look to the right of this page, 1/2 of those sponsored links want you to use one trick or another. But using these tricks makes the very real situation as to why you would even consider using them bigger, but now there is a beautiful decor around it. This is an absolute irony.

What needs to be looked at is this fear, this weakness that drives one to need and want the tactics in the first place. It’s that same fear that sends a person into a pit in the first place. It all comes from the same energy. You feel inferior and weak, so you look for help and find other things along the same lines as that fear. Then that fear leads to manipulation, weakness and no sense of confidence in anything. The string of logic gets so logical that there becomes endless hallway with an exit sign getting further away as you walk towards it. Logically you want to go towards the exit, but all you need to do is turn around to see the real exit.

The point of acting not needy, acting aloof, playing hard to get is to simulate, to copy someone that actually has these traits. These tricks have been discovered by observing people who are actually not needy and watching how men responds to it. Then they take it and run with it. They begin to act not needy towards guys, and lo and behold, they find it works wonders.

But there is a problem. People can only lie so long before a number of things happen: they become angry, depressed, repressed, attract things into their life they don’t want, and attract situations they weren’t honestly ready for.

If you lie that you are millionaire but only have pennies in your bank account and are asked to invest $5.1 million into a large company, you have thrown yourself into a situation you are not ready for. There is no way you can do it! And because you keep up the lie, you panic, stress, get depressed until the inevitable truth reveals itself.

Lying, when you act aloof to get a guy, you are bringing in a situation into your life which you are not in resonance with. There is no natural harmony. Then, stress arises, anger arises, and depression arises.

You can see this happening everywhere. People pretend to be something they are not. If ever I find myself in a situation that stresses me so, maybe even strikes fear into the heart, I remember to come back to authenticity, become aware and wake up. Then whatever happens is the way it was suppose to happen.

Authenticity is one of the few things that we come into the world with. Then as we adjust more and more to the outside world, we start realizing that it can be sold. It can be sold for tantalizing things like a new house, more friends a lover. We start selling it away like we are an auction selling to the highest bidder.

You want the lover, the friends but it seems easier to trick somebody into thinking you are something you’re not rather than actually going to the core of you.

Revealing the core of you makes you vulnerable in a sense, hence there is a great desire to keep up the lies and keep the vulnerability sealed away. It’s similar to taking a rotted out wall with termites, holes and infestation and painting over it with a bucket of blue paint it to cover it up. It’s easier to paint over it rather than to air out the wall. You end up putting so many layers of paint on you forget about the wall underneath rotting away. Then one day you pull back the paint to find the entire wall has rotted away… and maggots and termites are the only thing left.

But you are different from a wall. A wall rots away, but you cannot. In fact, the more you reveal yourself, the authenticity comes out of you, the more you grow, the more you flourish. The more lies build up over you, the more you decay on the inside. Your inner being likes to see the light of day. It thrives that way.

Otherwise, you lose your authenticity, you lose your window of happiness, relaxation and you continue to worry. You worry about keeping up your image and you worry about all of the circumstances you weren’t ready for. Love is desired, but what’s the use if one can’t even enjoy it? Love is received to this faulty persona, not to the real you, and you will never feel like you are truly loved until you are truly authentic. You will alway have that burning feeling that tells you “they only love my image, they can’t love the real me because look how hollow I am.”

It’s a “from the inside out” job. The more the inside is allowed to come out and play, you get a taste of fresh and become intoxicated with yourself. One becomes intoxicated with the real joy of love.

A whole lot of wanna-be Players, Pick Up Artists ('PUAs'), and Seducers out there have been rushing into the scene in the last year or so, since The Game was released on the unsuspecting public...

It's tragic to watch as these new entrants into our wonderful Game, instead of ACTUALLY becoming Players, become 'Playas'; instead of Pick Up Artists, they become 'Pick Up Technique Zealots' ('PUTZs'); and instead of becoming Seducers, they become 'Womanizers'.

Ironically, although "The Game" is CLEARLY a condemnation of the jejune and hollow lives of most of its participants, an amazing number of people appear to have missed this message, instead only being intrigued by the notion of getting laid by hotter/more/any women.

In an effort to prevent spiritual and psychological decay amongst the people whom this community most stands to serve, I am going to attempt to frame things in such a way as to help neophytes and experienced participants alike to evolve into this gradually, rather than rushing in like proverbial fools.

Here goes...

"Inner Game" is a convenient euphemism for having a "Satisfied Sense-of-Self".
The more richly developed you are AS A PERSON, the less crafty and manipulative you need to be as a Player, and the less you need to justify that you DESERVE the playboy lifestyle you have chosen.

Once you wrap your mind around this, everything falls into place:
Inner Game isn't something you get taught, it isn't something you study - it's something you must EARN!

The irony is, ONLY YOU can award it to yourself.

This Self-Confidence is like Freedom: You must EARN it - it can't be bought, borrowed, or stolen, nor can it be given away. (When Freedom is GIVEN to you, that's ACTUALLY abandonment. Think about that!)

By earning your OWN respect, and satisfying yourself that you are becoming more fully-realized with each new experience you have, you begin TRULY to like yourself.

We're all looking to live as playboys, but there is nothing innately positive about the 'worthless playboy' stereotype. Oh, it LOOKS like fun, but it's empty and shallow...

The paradigm I recommend, alternatively, is "Worthy Playboy" and I elaborate on it further now:

To become a 'Worthy Playboy' you must develop yourself as a Renaissance Man; you should endeavour to gain a broad-base of knowledge in areas you believe people who'd interest you will be versed. This will help you to remain interesting to them also; as being interesting is INFINITELY more attractive than being 'impressive'.

As a Worthy Playboy, you should be comfortable and confident enough to carry on conversations with women on subjects you have historically known nothing about, by candidly and sincerely encouraging them to share THEIR insights with you.
NEVER FORGET: Everyone's favourite subject is themselves, and NOTHING makes you more attractive to another person than being INTERESTED in what they have to say.
This works for men and women alike - but women are far more impressed when they receive this attention from men (since most men are usually too arrogant to concede they might not know everything... Schmucks.)

A Worthy Playboy is never ashamed of NOT KNOWING, because A) no one can know everything, and B) women will be DELIGHTED that their knowing something you don't isn't intimidating to you - and they will be flattered that you're man-enough to let them teach something to you.

"Know Thyself" said The Oracle, and that was profound advice - FOR SELF-DECEPTION IS THE ROOT OF ALL EVIL.

Introspectively interrogate yourself to discover WHO YOU ARE as you develop - to ensure you haven't lost sight of yourself.

Once you KNOW who you are, you'll know what you'll do.

IF YOU ONLY DO THE THINGS WHICH MAKE SENSE TO YOU, in which you find yourself BOTH cerebrally and emotionally settled, and where your conscience is unperturbed, YOU'LL BE ACTING WITH 'REASONED CONFIDENCE'.

This is the rational way of leading your life - by following these internal guidlelines, you'll NEVER have reason for regret, and no justification for embarrassment, EVEN if things don't work out immediately! (In such cases, dispassionately step back from the experience, return to the plan to see whether the problem was situational or persistant, and modify as-necessary before trying again.)

By proceeding ONLY with Reasoned Confidence, the only guilt you need EVER feel is the guilt of letting yourself down; the ONLY embarrassment, the embarrassment of making the same mistakes over again; the ONLY regret, the regret of not having come to this epiphany earlier.

Promise yourself regularily, "I will never do anything I wouldn't do" - and keep that promise faithfully - your internal consistency and congruency depends on it. Your ethical system should NOT have a 'margin release key' - that is the road to conscious hypocrisy (See "Self-Deception" above) and is nothing less than personal treason.

Explore your world - expand your horizons, develop new friendships with people of high integrity and ethics, and remain true to yourself and your word. Your relationships and your reputation are your strongest weapons in the battle against psychological misery and emotional defeat - make certain they are solid, just, and dependable as best you can.

As you progess, you will become comfortable that ANY PERSON (man or woman) with whom you interact will feel and be better-off for knowing you [even if it's simply because you proved to them that GOOD MEN still exist, and find THEM interesting] and that they will feel better about themselves because they've spent time with you.

What could be a more-attractive attribute to have?

Most of all, YOU MUST BECOME SELF-ACTUALIZED - in other words, you need to find your comfort with yourself based on your confidently and successfully following your own path, and NOT narcissistically through the approval of others.

Permitting yourself to be held-back from progressing because you fear the disapproval of people you don't admire is MADNESS!

Lead your own life, and conscientiously ensure you make all your descisions with Reasoned Confidence, and when you are met with disapproving or taunting jibes from 'the peanut gallery' just take note of it - then DO AS YOU WILL, and watch as your detractors become your admirers. There's no arguing with success.

Good luck to you all,

I hope you find value in this.

Well, since you asked for it... I will!

Sure, you probably knew (and if you didn't, where have you been?!) that what every man on this planet ultimately desires is a woman... but what about the woman, and what type of woman, and most importantly - why?

Well, according to evolutionary psychologists (who see human nature as a collection of psychological adaptations), as far as men on this planet are concerned, we will do anything to attain power (political, social or any other "valuable to women" type of power) in order to portray themselves more desirable in a woman's mind, and therefore attract as many women into their lives as possible for purely reproductive purposes.

Yes, if you are a woman reading this, that might come of as a totally sexist, immoral or borderline offensive and ignorant thing to say... but even if it is contrary to your ideals and beliefs of what this world is all about, it's true and backed up by scientific research (article here)!

For example, according to the article linked above, "The history of western civilization aside, humans are naturally polygamous. Polyandry (a marriage of one woman to many men) is very rare, but polygyny (the marriage of one man to many women) is widely practiced in human societies, even though Judeo-Christian traditions hold that monogamy is the only natural form of marriage. We know that humans have been polygynous throughout most of history..."

In addition, only a small percentage of alpha males with power of sorts have been able to have multiple wives, girlfriends, lovers and sex slaves throughout history while regular men and "everyday" Joe Blows have had to satisfy themselves with "only" one woman at a time... if that at all (and that's why apparently most suicide bombers are Muslim too! Again, read the article above for a pretty freakin' solid theory on why that is).

So here I am, still thinking about this whole male/female relationship throughout our history and even today, and I tend to agree that most of the violence, wars and frustrating problems in this world can be blamed on women.

Yes, I blame it all on women (don't like it? sue me).

But why?

Aren't they real sweet, cuddly, innocent creatures that you can only love with your whole heart and enjoy for what they are - physically, sexually and emotionally?

Yes, exactly... and that's the point.

Women have the power to say NO to men interested in them.

And that's what pisses all those rejected men off and turns them into sexually frustrated animals, even more hungrier for what they cannot have.

"Men have had to conquer foreign lands, win battles and wars, compose symphonies, author books, write sonnets, paint cathedral ceilings, make scientific discoveries, play in rock bands, and write new computer software in order to impress women so that they will agree to have sex with them. Men have built (and destroyed) civilizations in order to impress women, so that they might say yes."

That might sound all new to you, but it's true, and it's just f'cked up, isn't it!

However, we gotta learn to live with it and deal with it...

Or maybe learn how to get into that 1% of men who get a choice with most of the women out there without banging out heads for years trying to accumulate all kinds of wealth, money and power in order to impress them.

It's just the means towards the same goal (not money and power per se, but rather women, sex, pleasure, ultimate happiness), just like the bank robbery is not simply about guns and masks - it's just another means of getting to the money.

So, if you still think the only way towards more women in your life is money and power (remember what happened to Tony Montana in Scarface? yep, he thought the same way too), well, keep reading our blog or drop into one of our seminars and we'll show you a much easier way out, without all the frustrations that most men go through, and with much more happiness and joy in your life...

But for all of you who can't really make it out to our workshops in person, here's a free bonus... something I just ran into this morning, checking some random videos on YouTube while being woken up by a beautiful woman.

(You know what they say, "Picture says a thousand words"... and if I may add, "Right youtube video says a million words")

Pay attention to the vibe the character in the video gives out... especially in the first half of the clip (first 2 or so minutes) and then read the rest of this post...

Now, if you were paying close attention to the video, you would've noticed how much he comes of as a man who simply loves women, someone who is playful (and it's not a facade of sorts - he truly comes of like that and is most likely like that ALL THE TIME), someone who enjoys a company of a beautiful woman and knows how to make her feel good...

And that's exactly who you should BE if you want to have tons of women in your life adoring you and having you as their source of all things fun!

I did not say, however, that you should BE LIKE him... as that sort of implies that you're not being authentic and are just copying someone (fake it till you make it, anyone?).

What I meant is truly find out, deep inside yourself, all the reasons why you love women, what you find so attractive and beautiful about them, how good they make you feel and why... and when you find enough reasons why you love and adore women, then go out and have some fun - share that with them!

Let them know how they make you feel and why... and then come back here and let me know of the outcomes.

But don't try to fake it or go half-ass about it - it won't work. And no, I won't respect that effort either.

You have to genuinely be that guy for the right results to show up in your life...

If you are still clueless and confused, inquire about our upcoming bootcamps - we might have to meet you in person in order to create that deep level change within your own personality...

P.S. - Now scroll back up, watch that video clip again, and pay attention to the actual lyrics of the song too... needless to say that not only did Philosopher Kings pick the right visual demonstration for this vibe, but they choose their words properly too (in case you're more of an auditory learner, I guess... lol!)

WHAT TRUE INTIMACY MEANS FOR A WOMAN

Women almost universally say that they crave “Intimacy”. And the world is literally filled with propaganda as to what this means for a woman.

In my opinion, when it comes to sex and intimacy, most men have this completely ass-backwards. I deduce this from two areas:

1. Watching the way society says intimacy should be sought, observing AFCs acting it out, and observing both AFCs and their female partners grow increasingly frustrated. To me, this is an easily observable frame and I see it all the time with couples who are out having a supposedly “intimate” dinner together.

2. Feedback I get from the women I’ve been intimate with. You’ll note that a lot of this feedback, by definition, is not the “sitting around the fire” type of chit chat. It is very verbal in the form of the SEX TALK I get and it is very EXPLICIT.

Attraction + Comfort + Logistics = Sex.

When you hear a woman talk about “intimacy”, consider that she means a real, deep connection with the man at every phase here.

Attraction

You are an attractive man and you know it. The same way a beautiful woman knows it; not the way a try-hard thinks he knows it. This means you are not phased by her looks; you can really adore her looks but you can “see past” her looks. She’s feminine. She’s vulnerable. Most men she interacts with haven’t even the capability of seeing past her looks.

You might need to use C&F or a neg or two to demonstrate this sometimes. But as for negs, view those as training wheels; they are mere demonstrations that you are not phased by her looks. The next level for you is to bypass “looks” as an issue that need any compensatory tactic at all. From experience, I can say that this happens automatically when the company of beautiful women becomes routine for you. As in, only with experience and time.

Comfort

Comfort is all about having her trust you. Trust that you can:
- Fuck her and fuck her well
- Not embarrass her socially in the process
- Not be looking to her for comfort.

That last point is important and underscores a key difference between men and women: A woman looks to a man to provide her with comfort. A man needs to be comfortable also before he can have sex , but he must get that comfort from within himself and never from the woman!

Incongruence is simply where your outer actions do not match your inner beliefs. Don’t believe you can fuck this woman properly? Then you probably won’t be doing so, other than in your mind at home jerking off. Don’t absolutely know she is safe in your hands, physically but equally important, socially? Then she won’t feel nearly comfortable enough with you to fuck you.

This is precisely why the AFC technique of dating can be effective but so massively inefficient. Only after a long process of courting can she finally feel safe enough with you, that you are essentially “harmless”. But what has that done for the Attraction part in the meantime?

Logistics. Again, book knowledge can help a lot, but real experience is required. You can read all about logistics, but without experience, it will be tough to convince her that you can execute the logistics in a safe way for her.

Intimacy

When a woman who is with a man that can execute all of the above in a confident way, she can say say she feels intimate with him. Why? Because he is relating to her as a woman, in a way that almost no other man does. She will get the feeling that she is with a man who finally understands her.

What Intimacy Is Not

- Intimacy for a woman is not when you pour out your heart to her. That’s you looking to her for comfort. It will repel her. As a heterosexual woman she will not feel sexually attracted towards a man who needs her to generate comfort. She might feel maternal only if she has enough affection towards you.

- Intimacy for a woman is not you being passive in bed. Again, it demonstrates a fear of her and putting her on a pedestal. This type of energy is the way little boys treat their mothers. Most mothers don’t have the urge to fuck their sons after they’ve wiped the snot off their noses.

- Sexual Intimacy for a woman is not when you act like her therapist, letting her use you like an emotional tampon. That type of intimacy is reserved for her girlfriends .

- Intimacy for a woman is not when you are an abusive hard-ass that has no empathy . When I say empathy, I want you guys to feel understanding for the woman without becoming a woman. These types of “low-level” alpha males who have no empathy can generate a lot of sexual attraction in a woman, but not real intimacy.

How to Know When You Are Really Intimate with a Woman

Women love gentle teasing. When she wants you to kiss her more/fuck her harder/move faster, when she is supplicating to you as her man, she is opening herself up to you completely. You are in complete control of the interaction. You are leading her on a roller-coaster ride of highs and lows. If you are in complete charge + she is loving it = intimacy for her. Whether you are whispering things in her ear, commanding her to perform a certain action, telling her a story, escalating sexually, or otherwise leading, you will see that she is in a virtual hypnotic state. That means she is feeling Intimate with you.

When you have a Good Girl horny enough and comfortable enough with you to cry out “fuck my little pussy! PLEASE!” it means she is feeling very, very Intimate with you.

Think about it guys: When a woman says you make her feel wonderful, it means she feels close to you, she knows that you really understand her, her mind and her body. That’s intimacy for a woman.

The problem with society is they paint male-female intimacy as either in a boy-mother light or a girlfriend-girlfriend light. When a woman talks about being intimate with her male lover, those are not the two kinds of intimacy she is talking about. We are here to learn about a more masculine way to create intimacy for the woman.

So, in this one we bring you two of the UK's best Pick Up Artists - AFC Adam Lyons (One of World's Top 3 Pick-up Artists of 2007) and Sheriff (Mystery Method instructor extraordinaire)!

Here are some points we covered in this interview:

• What one character trait will let you win over ANYONE!
• Why EVERYONE has a chance to become one of the best PUA's in the world!
• Adam's one Solid Gold Transition Line that guarantees the smoothest interaction ever
• Adam's most important piece of advice, and how you can use it immediately!
• Sheriff's idea of the perfect date
• A paradigm shift that will change the way you run game FOREVER!
• The mindset of 2 of the best PUA's in the World and how you can benefit from it TODAY!
• One mistake that will devastate your chances with every girl at the bar and how to avoid it
• Insights of their most cherished piece of advice they were ever given!
• And much, much more...

So, without me spoiling it for you by giving out too much, listen in yourself...