What True Intimacy Means For A Woman

Here's a great article from Joseph W. South I thought I should share with you...

WHAT TRUE INTIMACY MEANS FOR A WOMAN

Women almost universally say that they crave “Intimacy”. And the world is literally filled with propaganda as to what this means for a woman.

In my opinion, when it comes to sex and intimacy, most men have this completely ass-backwards. I deduce this from two areas:

1. Watching the way society says intimacy should be sought, observing AFCs acting it out, and observing both AFCs and their female partners grow increasingly frustrated. To me, this is an easily observable frame and I see it all the time with couples who are out having a supposedly “intimate” dinner together.

2. Feedback I get from the women I’ve been intimate with. You’ll note that a lot of this feedback, by definition, is not the “sitting around the fire” type of chit chat. It is very verbal in the form of the SEX TALK I get and it is very EXPLICIT.

Attraction + Comfort + Logistics = Sex.

When you hear a woman talk about “intimacy”, consider that she means a real, deep connection with the man at every phase here.

Attraction

You are an attractive man and you know it. The same way a beautiful woman knows it; not the way a try-hard thinks he knows it. This means you are not phased by her looks; you can really adore her looks but you can “see past” her looks. She’s feminine. She’s vulnerable. Most men she interacts with haven’t even the capability of seeing past her looks.

You might need to use C&F or a neg or two to demonstrate this sometimes. But as for negs, view those as training wheels; they are mere demonstrations that you are not phased by her looks. The next level for you is to bypass “looks” as an issue that need any compensatory tactic at all. From experience, I can say that this happens automatically when the company of beautiful women becomes routine for you. As in, only with experience and time.

Comfort

Comfort is all about having her trust you. Trust that you can:
- Fuck her and fuck her well
- Not embarrass her socially in the process
- Not be looking to her for comfort.

That last point is important and underscores a key difference between men and women: A woman looks to a man to provide her with comfort. A man needs to be comfortable also before he can have sex , but he must get that comfort from within himself and never from the woman!

Incongruence is simply where your outer actions do not match your inner beliefs. Don’t believe you can fuck this woman properly? Then you probably won’t be doing so, other than in your mind at home jerking off. Don’t absolutely know she is safe in your hands, physically but equally important, socially? Then she won’t feel nearly comfortable enough with you to fuck you.

This is precisely why the AFC technique of dating can be effective but so massively inefficient. Only after a long process of courting can she finally feel safe enough with you, that you are essentially “harmless”. But what has that done for the Attraction part in the meantime?

Logistics. Again, book knowledge can help a lot, but real experience is required. You can read all about logistics, but without experience, it will be tough to convince her that you can execute the logistics in a safe way for her.

Intimacy

When a woman who is with a man that can execute all of the above in a confident way, she can say say she feels intimate with him. Why? Because he is relating to her as a woman, in a way that almost no other man does. She will get the feeling that she is with a man who finally understands her.

What Intimacy Is Not

- Intimacy for a woman is not when you pour out your heart to her. That’s you looking to her for comfort. It will repel her. As a heterosexual woman she will not feel sexually attracted towards a man who needs her to generate comfort. She might feel maternal only if she has enough affection towards you.

- Intimacy for a woman is not you being passive in bed. Again, it demonstrates a fear of her and putting her on a pedestal. This type of energy is the way little boys treat their mothers. Most mothers don’t have the urge to fuck their sons after they’ve wiped the snot off their noses.

- Sexual Intimacy for a woman is not when you act like her therapist, letting her use you like an emotional tampon. That type of intimacy is reserved for her girlfriends .

- Intimacy for a woman is not when you are an abusive hard-ass that has no empathy . When I say empathy, I want you guys to feel understanding for the woman without becoming a woman. These types of “low-level” alpha males who have no empathy can generate a lot of sexual attraction in a woman, but not real intimacy.

How to Know When You Are Really Intimate with a Woman

Women love gentle teasing. When she wants you to kiss her more/fuck her harder/move faster, when she is supplicating to you as her man, she is opening herself up to you completely. You are in complete control of the interaction. You are leading her on a roller-coaster ride of highs and lows. If you are in complete charge + she is loving it = intimacy for her. Whether you are whispering things in her ear, commanding her to perform a certain action, telling her a story, escalating sexually, or otherwise leading, you will see that she is in a virtual hypnotic state. That means she is feeling Intimate with you.

When you have a Good Girl horny enough and comfortable enough with you to cry out “fuck my little pussy! PLEASE!” it means she is feeling very, very Intimate with you.

Think about it guys: When a woman says you make her feel wonderful, it means she feels close to you, she knows that you really understand her, her mind and her body. That’s intimacy for a woman.

The problem with society is they paint male-female intimacy as either in a boy-mother light or a girlfriend-girlfriend light. When a woman talks about being intimate with her male lover, those are not the two kinds of intimacy she is talking about. We are here to learn about a more masculine way to create intimacy for the woman.